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DOES A FRIEND REALLY LAST A LIFETIME OR IS IT TEMPORARY!?
Im originally from NJ but i moved to Georgia a few years ago,before i came down i was like the typical cat from the hood and so was my "friends". I was sure that me moving to Georgia would never effect my relationship wit my friends, I mean,they can come visit,new scenery, new women etc. but i couldnt be more wrong in fact not only did it effect the relationships that i had with these people it also changed the way i viewed my entire childhood! As young black males we always hear the cliche lines like...I'LL RIDE FOR MY HOMIE,I'LL NEVER SNITCH ON MY PEOPLE,MONEY OVER B*ITCHES, you get the idea..but in REALITY how many of these so-called laws get broken on an everyday basis!I've seen men play each other for a little popularity, I've seen men snitch and I've seen many men lose their hard earned money over women so i guess it's all "ghetto mythology"!Now i explain this just to make the point that everything is not really what it seems no matter how many times you hear it or no matter how long you've been living by it, fact is,until the issue comes up you will NEVER know how one will respond in a pressure situation.When i came to GA i knew my friends were only a phone call away but gradually through the years things started to change..no phone calls no vacation planning even the conversation seemed to have become worthless.At first i didnt know how to take it and i would get angry or feel like my friends were never really my friends but after a while it all made sense, I had fell into the "OUT OF SIGHT OUT OF MIND" category.This seems to be somewhat natural seeing as how we all have a family member that you have love for but you only see him/her on holidays, so until that holiday you think about him/her as much as you think about crashing your car into a tree! Friends are supposed to be there when you are doing good or bad. friends are going to lend you money, friends are supposed to listen to your sad stories and tell you it's alright BUT move to another state,lose everything you own, fall on severe hard times,do a crime and go to jail or just try to be a 100% honest and then watch the reaction of the person that you think is your BFF! Im just sayin,when the average person gets older than 40 a mans' best friend is either their wife,son or dog maybe we should start asking them what they think friendship really is..
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well at the age i am now no you really don't have a friend the true meaning of friend is to be there almost like marriage but they fail to so to make an good friend is to stick with what makes you happy and make the best of the situation your in the now not the later
TRUE@POETIC BUT THE POINT IS THAT YOU NEVER REALLY KNOW A PERSON UNTIL THY ARE PUT TO THE TEST..SO MANY FRIENDSHIPS ARE BETRAYED ON THE DAILY SO QUESTION IS WHY DOES IT HAPPEN THIS WAY...AND THE ANSWER IS SIMPLE,PEOPLE ARE NOT REAL TO PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD AND UNTIL YOU FIND A PERSON THAT U CAN SIT DOWN AND REALLY CONNECT WITH ON NOT ONLY AN INTELLECTUAL BUT A SPIRITUAL AS WELL YOU WILL NEVER HAVE A "TRUE"FRIEND.
Friends come and go like the seasons. It is so true the less you see a person the more they are out of mind. Its really hard to find a friend that you can sit down with and connect w/ bc most of your "friends" serve that particular purpose at that moment. And please don't have a friend that advances in life a lot more quicker then you will notice there true intentions!!!
The thing is no one was really taught how to be a true friend. Not to go all deep but look at what happen with Jesus and the 12 disciples. The one that said he would never turn on Jesus was the very one that disowned him three times. You can say that you are a best friend but at the end of the day would you die for them? If you look at Jesus he is the only friend that any of us have here on this earth, yea he is not her physically but we can feel him because he lives in our hearts. The one time I did say that I had a best friend she turned on me because she thought that I wanted her man, but yet in still I was the one telling her to keep him cause he is a good one, never tried him or even flirted with him. Some people just get scared and dont know what to do. But all I can say is never be a fake friend.
@TWEETY... you are right about alot of what you said but its just 1 thing i can't agree with you on is the jesus thing..now I don't want to knock your religion..but as a black woman you need to recognize who you are and where you REALLY come from queen, I know it's off subject but im going to tell you a couple places to go and do your research ..1. I want you to check out a brother named RAY HAGIN..the video is called the "VERDICT IS IN" and after that I want you to let me know what you think..
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